Are you finding "it" syndrome? "They" do not listen "They" do not get their input before making changes: "They" Do not talk so well: "They" not a team player, etc.? This language describes our tendency to put the source of the problem outside of ourselves. Unfortunately this also means that we have ownership of our country and therefore may change.when we delete the information that we have to filter out some part of our experience, we believe in something we deal with you, the problem with this is that it makes action and subject matte. Deletion may appear as an expression of opinion by the facts and by making comparisons with no real plans. Some examples include: 'Fred the need to improve their communication skills' and' It's not ready to upset the boss around here 'or' We need more sales "All of these statements are very abstract, with questions that can be challenging and. the influence of obstacles that people put on themselves. the goal is to reconnect native speakers with experience and reality of their potential.
The first statement can ask 'In what way does he need to improve'. The second statement challenged by asking 'By whom? "And the third statement 'More then what?' The next way we can filter our communication through distortion - we also destroy our way of experiencing sensory data samples that do not understand what other people think or needs no hard evidence:. Or we can choose to distort our experience in a way that works for us a few examples and challenges for matching the statement, "I know why you do it '-' How do you know? ',' I was slow to learn '-' In what way? You justify ',' You drive me crazy '-' How to MAKE you mad ','? '. You have not said anything you need bored '-' What I am bored of silence 'next most common way we influence our communication is through the means we devote significant experience of our broader category in which our experience is an example.
Generalising the basis for what we choose to believe about the world, good and bad. For example, 'no one ever listened to': or 'You can not trust anyone. Some other examples and the challenge is: "I always end up with an awesome boss '-,' I can not do that '-' What's stopping you ',' No one is ever on my side '-'? Always' "No? Ever? "In some cases it may be a useful screening process, they help us cope. The important thing is to recognize the patterns that limit the U.S. or others and replace them with new ones that support us to be the best that we can. Which seems to have cost me.
